You describe the emotions associated with lovemaking well, but notice that none of those emotions (apart from eroticism perhaps) depends on sex. That is, sex isn't necessary and sufficient for most of them (for playfulness, tenderness, passion, etc). So you're talking there about some effects of sex, not about sex itself. That's what goes on in the minds of certain people while they're engaged in that act. But the act needn't be associated with those emotions, as it isn't in the case of "fucking." In the latter case there are different associated emotions (domination and animality mainly).

So you're saying the description of sex's physicality ignores the emotions. But the fact that the act can be separated from those emotions shows that the act is what it is, regardless of how we feel about it. In any case, I agree that the emotions aren't just stories. I'll be writing on those associated emotions in a different article.

I can see how my views on antinatural creativity might conflict with evolutionary psychology. I've written a lot on this. Again, it's based on the distinction between the natural and the artificial. I'm interested in the anomalousness of the Anthropocene, how we don't reach equilibrium with nature but replace the wilderness with intelligently-designed, humanized environments (cities, nations, cultures, worldviews, technologies). I apply all of that to a meta-history of human development.